Author Archives: Celia Whitler

Mobile Surfing

After I posted in cyberspace  that I figured out the laptop to cellular connection via bluetooth, I had several inquiries about how I made that happen. So as I sit in the elementary school pickup line, I am writing and posting this on my blog using that connection.

An important word of caution came from a friend who suggested that I double check with my cellular company to verify that my cellular plan covered these these data transfers. I was told this can get expensive quickly if you’re not covered. So, I’ll pass that word of caution along. Check in before surfing.

You have to have a laptop that does bluetooth and a cell phone that does bluetooth. Set them up to discover each other (references later). If you don’t have bluetooth, you can likely get a usb cable that will allow the connection. The webpage I used to get my laptop to talk with my phone was this one. I had to use the instructions here to make a few tweaks to the network settings.

My basic connection steps now are, 1) untether the phone by dialing a code 2) Sync the laptop with the phone via bluetooth, 3) choose the bluetooth network connection 4) surf 5) re-set the network to wireless lan 6) re-tether the phone.

Now I can work in airports, starbucks, mcdonalds and fancy shmancy hotels that  sell wi-fi without purchasing wi-fi. Happy surfing.

Sound Advice: on (church) audio support

I am continuing a series I am calling “opportunites for improvement (OFIs).” These are mistakes I see often in (church) sound system operation. My experience is that successful audio support is not entirely an art or a science. In my experience it is more of a practice.

I’m a listener. Throughout my years, I have experienced some incredible gatherings of people when I have lost myself in an experience. One of the reasons I have gotten lost is because I didn’t even think about how well I could hear. The audio operator did such a superb job of attending to the medium — the thing in the middle — between the message and me, that I lost myself in the message.

On the other hand, one of the most distracting elements in a worship service or other gathering can be poor audio support. Included in an audio-supporting sound system is the operation by a human resource. The operator’s job description is one of support. If the only time the operator is noticed is when s/he is thanked for a job well done, they have succeeded. If listeners have to think about what or why they cannot hear, what the ringing sound is, or what is about to ring, then there is some room for improvement.

For some reason, a man standing behind a sound console full of knobs is a very territorial creature (ladies don’t seem to share this condition). This can be true from a volunteer working a very small gathering to a professional standing behind rows and rows of knobs. I have seen sound operators in church events treated unkindly and impatiently when being asked to do something simple by an individual making a small request in an unreasonable and even angry tone. Likewise, I have not been spoken to as disrespectfully at any other time, as by a sound operator when I made a simple (and warranted) request. I don’t know all of the sources of our intensity–there is certainly some defensiveness in the mix, but the world/church could use some servanthood in this supportive role. I think a primary source of stress is poor training. Often we put someone with limited or no training in a fairly visible role and then we ask the improbable of them. There are varying levels of success with this kind of recruit-and-ignore strategy, but I think the odds are against success.

What follows is a draft of my list of opportunities for improvement, 12 so far. These are not for you or for the guy at your church, but maybe you can pass this along under the heading of “tell this guy named Ron what he missed.” If I have been in your church, you can rest assured these are not written with any one person in mind. The challenges seem to be somewhat universal and this list is the result of observations of repeated behaviors, so I am REALLY not talking about you. I would like to hear your comments and opinions, so jump in the conversation.

Here is the first draft of my list:

  1. Creating noises in the soundbooth — talking, dropping things. Under the role of support, you could include being seen and not heard. If there are flags being waved in a soundbooth, you might be causing a visual distraction as well.
  2. Allowing feedback, that all too familiar ringing sound in your ears — big distraction, big no no.
  3. Allowing “almost-feedback” — a signal functioning right at the level of feedback, if there’s a pre-hint of feedback coming, that shifts focus away from the matter at hand.
  4. Not paying attention to or not knowing what is coming next. If someone steps up to a microphone, (whether printed in an order of service or not) have it on in anticipation of the sound. This can also happen if you are tardy or miss a soundcheck. The first note of a song or word of a speech are as worthy of being heard as the middle.
  5. Poor training — Not having a working knowledge of signal flow in your particular setup is a problem. This would include every knob on the soundboard (I have a story here for another post–“have you seen how many knobs are on this thing?”), knowledge of what each piece of gear does and how sound flows from input to speaker. For instance, feedback is caused by sound at any give frequency or pitch (or several) flows in a loop. There are work arounds, but in general never point a microphone at a speaker. Troubleshooting is impossible without knowledge and knowledge is improbable without training. Know the quirks of your system: rarely does everything work – there’s usually a weak link–a bad cable, or a bad channel on the board or a bad wire input mounted on a wall somewhere, or a bad speaker, etc. You don’t have to spend top dollar, but cheap gear will probably give you cheap sound… you get what you pay for. Continuously evaluate the weakest link in your system/equipment chain. For example, if you have a bad microphone, your output is only going to sound so good.
  6. Not listening — Mixing for the auditorium (literally – a room for hearing) or “front of house”–(FOH) with headphones on, is a mistake. Your ears are your best friends when you are supporting live sound – this is where the art comes in. If you’re not listening to what the audience is listening to, you might miss something really obvious. You can achieve the same result with over-reliance on pre-marked settings – like stickers or pencil markings left by an expert about where levels should be. This can work against success as much as it works for it. Appropriate use of headphones might include monitoring a broadcast signal, a recording mix, a monitor feed, or input from a specific channel. If your situation includes recording, ignoring either the room mix or the recorded mix leaves someone out in the cold.
  7. Remaining at the soundboard – assuming the room sounds the same everywhere. This goes for “front of house” and for monitor mixes. An occasionally walk past the stage monitors can be a really informative trip. I have a friend who mixes church sound with a full size monitor speaker right by his board. He often checks each monitor mix as it is being produced on stage.
  8. Using the attenuation/gain as a volume control. Turning this knob, (the result of not setting this level prior to operation) changes all signal levels flowing into and out of the channel, including the monitoring system that musicians are relying on. This level can usually be set with a meter (using the pfl/solo button), rather than waiting for the level to peak and then backing it down. This is the most often made mistake I witness from poorly trained church volunteers. When setting the attenuation/input gain, use the meter and adjust the volume so you have a strong signal, but allow enough headroom for the signal to get louder.
  9. Running stage monitors post fader – If monitor sends on individual channels are not pre-fader, then changing the level of an individual channel in the auditorium mix or house (FOH) for the listeners also changes the levels for the musicians and people speaking. This creates a big obstacle/distraction for leaders who are working on focusing on the task at hand and can shift their focus from the message they’re trying to communicate to compensating for the changes they are hearing.
  10. Overuse of effects on vocals – this strategy is often used to enhance or even mask the quality of a vocal sound, but you can only help so much.
  11. Poor equalization (bass/treble). Certainly there is a large degree of taste or preference that goes into choosing how an input sounds, but an instrument should only sound so thin. Good EQ can go a long way toward eliminating feedback. If you cannot understand what the person speaking is saying, all the volume in the world will not make up for poor EQ.
  12. Wireless problems – Wireless systems can be a great thing. Using a different system every week, we tend to shy away from wireless systems because often the wireless signal has to be attenuated on the microphone. This is a variable we choose to eliminate from our lives. If you have the same source of problems every week, this may be an issue for you. This is at the last of the list because it is not necessarily a problem.

Okay, I am done… Share this with a friend, or not. Jump in and tell me what I missed or where I got close.

I’m listening, Ron

Serving our Children

I was recently doing some work with a friend and in the course of our conversation he said, “I’m trying to figure out how I can best serve my son.”  That got me thinking…

I’m not sure exactly why the phrase “serve my son” caught my attention, but it did. Celia and I have been in the Nashville area for about 15 years and we have spent a lot of time with songwriters. Songwriters are always listening for their next song. Writers of country music are always on the lookout for “the hook.” That’s a phrase or idea that sticks with a listener (for any of a variety of reasons) enough to write a song around. Maybe I’m becoming a bit of a wordsmith myself or at least an attentive listener. I don’t think I’m looking for the next hook, but I’m paying attention and here’s a little more about what I heard in that interaction.

First, a little background about my friend Nick (not his real name). Nick  is a really bright guy who’s the father of a couple of elementary aged kids. He does great work and he takes the dad role very seriously. He did some work for us about 10 years ago and every year since then we probably work together an average of a day a year. There’s always great conversation and we enjoy catching up about the water that’s passed under the bridge since our previous workday together.

So about a week ago, we’re working together on a project and Nick gets a phone call from the elementary school principal. I like school principals and even call some friend, but it’s hardly ever a good thing for a parent to receive a call from the principal and this was no exception. It seems Nick’s son had been involved in a scuffle at school before the bell rang in the morning. To his son’s credit, he was defending a victim from a bully, but he could’ve made a far better choice about how he chose to get involved. His choice resulted in disciplinary action. How he chose to be involved was far enough out-of-bounds to overshadow the rightness of stepping in on behalf of a victim.

A day later Nick and I were on a phone call following up on our work and I asked about his son. Nick had learned some additional details about the incident. Nick’s son had some schoolwork that he should’ve been working on at the time of the incident. There was a specific pre-existing paren’t-child agreement about the work that was supposed to be in-progress at the time in question. Had the son been doing that work, he would not have been in the wrong place at the wrong time and the incident would’ve been avoided completely. After Nick learned about these additional details, he and his son were on an errand together. Nick left the car to pick up something on the errand. He said that the few moments away from his son gave him some time for Nick’s anger to subside and to allow him to get in a better frame of mind. Nick said that by the time he got back to the car, he had cooled off and had gotten to a place where he really wanted to figure out how to best serve his son. (He didn’t say it with any emphasis, I added the bold letters, in an effort to let you know what jumped out at me.)… how best to serve his son… to me that was a big deal!

If only Nick and I had communicated a few days earlier, I’m sure I could’ve gotten a higher grade on my own parenting performance at a particular “opportunity for discipline” (OFD–discipline is about teaching, right?) that I was presented with this past Thursday. The situation looked something like this: number 2 son (first grade) was performing in a program at school and number 1 son (third grade) did NOT want to sit (still and quietly) in the gym. Number one’s continued requests to leave met our continued parental insistance for compliance and nobody was giving an inch. Number 1 son wanted to go see a friend outside and we wanted him to support number 2 son. As Celia and I wrestled with how best to survive/parent the situation, I’m afraid that my thoughts were not on “how best to serve” my child. I think I’m generally pretty good about playing the long game where discipline is concerned. After a couple of decades of working with teenagers and watching them head off to college to make many of their own often unsupervised choices and even mistakes, I think I parent with a picture of the end in mind, but not that particular day. Our parental embarassment and frustration at the distraction our interaction created for our little section of the bleachers in the elementary school gymnamsium removed any perspective we might have had for the long game. I’m confessing that there might have even been (ouch) a hint of wanting to win this particular showdown, and it didn’t get terrbly ugly, but nobody won.

Up until now, I can’t remember approaching an OFD and asking myself how I could best “serve my child.” I do remember learning several years ago that “spare the rod, spoil the child” might be better thought of as a shepherds’ crook that guides, than as a stick intended for a backside.

Don’t get me wrong, personally I’m all about the concept of service. I’ve taken thousands of adolescents on service events. I’ve washed more feet in worship services than I care to think about, but I can’t remember ever making a connection between “serving my child” and the discipline/art/science/practice/craft of parenting. For the last couple of days, I’ve been reflecting on the connection that Nick made for me. Service… that brings into the process several things: a dose of humility, a recognition that I don’t have it all together, the recognition that we’re in this together and an appreciation that my children have incredible value just as they are (even prior to correction).

Another thing that I walked away thinking about was that Nick took some time away and was giving his response plenty of thought, I mean continuing to wrestle with it. From our limited interactions through the last decade I can tell that Nick has lots of brain power to harness and that some incredible options will come out of his time spent wrestling with it… I want to be parent with that kind of intention.

So now I have a mental picture of Jesus taking up the role of servant as he wrapped that towel around his waist in the presence of a group of disciples who likely sat with confused looks on their faces. I invite you to join Nick (and more recently me) in picking up a towel, wrapping it around your waste, maybe seeing a confused look on your children’s faces and wrestling with the question “how can I best serve my child” especially in a situation requiring discipline.

Enough about me, you talk about me… just kidding, please jump in here and talk about you.

In some twisted way, I think I’m kinda looking forward to our next showdown. Maybe I’ll handle this one a little better. I’ll keep you posted… Ron

the mosquito ringtone

I recently learned about the mosquito ringtone. Have you heard about it? If you haven’t, I think it’s time you do. It is a sound that adults can’t hear and it is being used as a cellphone ringtone. There may be phones ringing right beside you that you’re missing.  

The history of Mosquito Ring Tone dates back to 2005 when a British inventor by the name of Howard Stapleton came up with an idea to keep teenagers from loitering outside of shops at night. He invented a product named “The Mosquito,” which blasts a loud and continuous 17.4KHz sound wave (about the same sound an actual mosquito would make) designed to make teens choose to choose not to loiter teens near storefronts. The welcomed adult shoppers couldn’t hear the sound. There is debate about whether or not it’s an ethical tool particularly when the sound was blasted at loud and uncomfortable levels. The Mosquito took advantage of a curious medical fact that most adults (and kids) are unaware of. Natural adult hearing loss is particularly acute at higher frequency ranges and most adults cannot hear ultra high frequency ranges after a certain age due to the condition known as Presbycusis.

As with any inventive good idea, sooner or later someone is going to use it for something other then the original intended purpose. In this case, some equally inventive teens in the inventor’s hometown caught on to what the company was doing and decided to put turn the idea into something they could use. They took the ultra sonic frequency and converted it into a cell phone ringtone. I think the thing that I found most interesting was the inventive nature of adolescents and that they figured out how to make this technology work in their favor. 

I accidentally discovered the original use as a teen repellent when I was trying to learn more about this curious ringtone that adults couldn’t hear. It gives me a bit more satisfaction that teenagers have found a way to use something that was initially conceived to work against them.

KFC used the concept in an advertisement. Follow this link to learn more:  KFC story With adults not hearing the ring, KFYC ran a contest that only people under a certain age could win. I think this is a very creative way to target a market, because in order to win, adults would have to depend on someone youth or children to win.

Here’s a link to a test: click here for the hearing test (I can hear up to and including the 15 kHz tone.  My sons took the test with me and they tell me that they can hear 16, 17 & 18 kHz.)

Most of the older teenagers I’ve talked with about the mosquito ringtone know about it and lots of them have it on their cell phones. You see adults, (think school personnel) don’t hear the ring. I encourage you to interview a few teens you know about it. It makes for some fun conversation.

The mosquito ringtone reminded me of a few stories. Maybe there is really something to that Christmas story, “The Polar Express.” You remember the part about being able to hear the bell ring? or what about the Peter Pan story?

This got me wondering what else I’m missing. I’m sure there’s a list of things I’m missing because I can’t perceive it. But I’ll be there’s some stuff that I could perceive, but I don’t for a variety of reasons. In the parable of the sower, it was “cares and pleasures” that choked the growth of the seeds. Or maybe I’m listening for God’s voice in the fire, the earthquake or the wind, and what I should be listening for is a still and small and quiet voice. I hope I’m tuning in with everything I’ve got.  How ’bout you?

Here’s a couple of information sources:

Wikipedia article – Mosquito Ringtone

Sex Education begins at home

Sex education is happening at my house and at yours too. Are you in the game?

Ours actually started several years ago, but we ramped it up last week. Birds and bees would have been a welcomed launch pad this spring, but on a recent family road trip during spring break my two sons [almost 9 and 7 1/2 years old]  and I ended up in a restroom stall in a gas station that had particularly well decorated walls that looked a lot like the cave writings I have seen on the Discovery Channel. This particular stop was a bit of an extended visit, which could not be rushed; so we had ample time to savor the information posted there. Regardless of how much I wanted to shelter my sons by blocking the information on those walls (often in poorly spelled words accompanied by inaccurate drawings), both of my sons have learned to read and the messages were there in almost 360 degrees for the harvesting.

I guess that restroom stall is an appropriate metaphor for living in the world we parent in. We cannot protect our children from the messages that are out there. Sooner or later, our little angels are going to hear something, see something or learn something that we strongly disagree with. As a parent (or even as any adult who accepts the responsibility of nurturing a child), I can only hope that these messages are appropriately and safely synthesized into a framework of understanding that I have greatly influenced prior to their reception. We encounter new vocabulary about weekly at our house.

I would love to think that I could prevent these occurrences, but I really can’t. Sometimes there is just not time for a pre-emptive scouting trip for every potty stop on this journey. Young digestive systems don’t always allow that time and the messages are everywhere (have you heard about this new thing called the internet? There are virtual restroom walls lurking inside your computer display right behind these words). I guess we could stay home, using only our bathroom and throw out the TV and computer and send our kids to a really, really safe school, but I choose not to live that way. (I will, however, be a little more careful about restroom selection for a while. There is no reason to rush this thing.)

The topic of where and how sex education should happen is volatile, reminiscent of those scenes from an action movie or a western where the bad guys are handling explosives. Whether the setting is a railroad trestle in the old west or a skyscraper in a metropolitan area today, the bad guys have to be careful about how they handle explosives. There’s always the moment where it really looks as if they are going to drop something and end it all. As a former professional in the business of nurture, I have been responsible for formative programs for young people in several different organizations in several settings. Having sponsored several educational events for young people in those locations, I’ve been invited to participate in larger discussions about what, when, where and how sex education should be taught. The discussions that were the most charged were about teaching in public schools. I can remember a couple of messages I received from folks who disagreed strongly with my thoughts. One particular letter I received even called my personal faith into question. We couldn’t even talk about talking about it. That got me started wondering what IT was that we really couldn’t talk about.

Here is what I have gleaned: The real issue is NOT about TEACHING SEXUALITY (plumbing, pregnancy and pitfalls). The real dilemna is WHOSE MORALITY AND VALUES we should attach to the information we teach about sexuality. I don’t think I’ve met anyone who would want to teach sexuality with absolutely no morality attached. That would d be like handing someone a weapon (potentially of mass destruction or at least massive self-destruction) without an owner’s manual. Likewise, most of us are not comfortable with our children learning sexuality with someone ELSE’s morality or values (that differ from ours). So as parents and caregivers we want OUR own morals and values taught. The irony is that no one can teach our morals and values better than we can, but some (many) of us are uncomfortable talking about our sexuality. So we’re left with the task of finding the best “substitute us”.

From a Judeo-Christian perspective, we have to face the fact that we’re out of the garden. Our forefather and foremother ate the fruit from that infamous tree. Wasn’t it the tree of knowledge of good and evil? Is this akin to the knowledge of morality and values? Might that part of our story be connected to this complicated issue? So like it or not, in addition to passing along the information, we’ve saddled ourselves with the freedom and the corresponding responsibility of passing along our own understanding or knowledge of good and evil, of morality and values, about where we personally detect the lines between right and wrong.

In my experience, the church has been a wonderful place for the teaching of sex education, partly because we tend to choose communities where our morals and values align, but the community alone is a poor substitution for our voice. We do participate in this process, whether we choose to jump in verbally or to remain tacit and let our example suffice, we are making a statement and leaving a legacy. Personally, I felt I had to respond verbally to those primitive glyphics on the stall wall and honestly it wasn’t entirely comfortable or clean (pun intended). It was another opportunity to leave my thumbprint on the world by influencing the influencers that live in my own home and hopefully to leave the world a little better, though it didn’t feel much like it at the time. I guess my loudest word for you and for me as parents is that we have to talk (or begin talking) about morals and values and sex in small and appropriate ways by answering questions as they are asked and by seizing teachable moments as opportunities surface.  In my own experience, that’s just some of the best curriculum there is.

That’s my 2 cents, for what it’s worth. Some of these thoughts have been rolling around in my mind since I received that letter of judgement from a stranger over a couple of decades ago. I guess this post is partly my reply to that well-intentioned epistle. These thoughts have been simmering in my crock pot for long enough and I feel a little better now. Mostly this is on my front burner due to my recent visit to that particular worldly gas station. I was thrown back into the fire and I thought I’d take a moment today and write down my reflections for me and for you.

So I encourage you and me to be on the lookout! Let’s tune in and listen to our children’s words and to what’s hidden beneath the words and let’s respond carefully, lovingly and with intent.

As always, I welcome your thoughts.

Opportunites for Improvement (16 – OFIs) for praise bands

My wife Celia and I have spent the last couple of decades traveling around the country providing musical leadership for events and for churches. We have heard and seen some trends that I’ll gently list under the category of “opportunities for improvement” — (OFIs) by praise bands. I could broaden the list to all genres of music– no one is immune to “OFI.” I’ve got a couple of examples I’ll blog about another day.

Of course this is not about you or your leadership, just my observations of the landscape. Feel free to point folks here, even if it falls under the category of “you might know someone else who needs to read this, that you’d like to share it with.” I’ll post this as a draft, signifying my intent to continue tweaking. It is kind of like the trend that some companies list “beta” on everything they generate or maybe I just have commitment issues. If you find yourself nudged or even convicted in one or more of these items, maybe that’s a good starting place. I invite you to pick one or two and commit to giving them some focus and time for improvement in your setting. Maybe it’s a beginning of dialogue for your team. I’m all about improvement, I hope the dialogue generated here is about you and me and our personal improvement and not pointing out the splinter in someone else’s eye.  Here’s my list:

  1. Listen! — Your best friends when you make music are your ears. Don’t ignore what they’re trying to tell you.
  2. Tuning — Tune your instruments. If they have strings, consider checking them often. Though I’ve mentioned your ears in item #1, consider augmenting–pun intended–them with a reliable tuner.  You can play through it, mute your sound and check tuning between songs. If you’re playing guitar and it wasn’t “set up” by a professional, this will probably improve your tuning as well. Changing strings periodically is also a good idea.
  3. Hearing – Can you and others can hear yourself/themselves? This item is listed separately, because your audio monitoring system may be a systemic issue affecting your ability to hear. Do you have the right mixes, placement of monitors and balances of signals in the mix? If you can’t hear yourself, you might not recognize OFIs in your own playing. Does anyone–your drummer, guitarist or anyone else–play too loudly? Almost enough said but if one person is impairing others’ ability to hear, there’s your trouble.
  4. Evaluate – If your services are recorded, listen to the recordings. There may be things you are missing while you are playing that you will hear when you focus on listening. Listen as a group before you rehearse. Evaluate what worked and what could have worked better.
  5. Arrangements – Are you playing off of the same page? Are musical charts clear and correct? Are the songs arranged so that they flow well? Can everyone see them? Does everyone know where you’re headed. Do you have signals to “call an audible”? for example one more chorus, one less verse, etc.
  6. Variety – Don’t assume others learn things the way you do. Some people learn visually, some auditorily, some kinetically. One of my observations of the differences between contemporary and traditional musicians is that traditional musicians learn by reading a chart, contemporary musicians tend to learn more by hearing. I have heard people who are exceptional at one or the other. Does your group makes allowances for learning music in a variety of ways?
  7. Tempo – How well do you lock to a tempo?  Music  is about the movement of sound frequencies through time (and space). If you’re drifting, there are ways to tighten it up. There’s a musical tool called a metronome that generates a “click”. Beats per minute is an absolute reference that is genre-less. Whether you practice or perform with one (in a drummer’s ear), they can be very helpful tools.
  8. Equipment – Do you have an adequate sound system? Bigger is not always better (there’s no mention of a  sound-check in the sermon on the mount), but good audio support makes a difference. It’s also a voice-saver.
  9. Support – Recruit or train capable sound system operators. A critical piece of the system is the operator. A strong operator can improve a weak system and a weak operator can make the best system sound bad. This item probably deserves its own list, (maybe I’ll do that one next). Running a sound board is both art and science–you have to listen with your ears, to watch the room and you have to understand basic signal flow. Have you seen how many knobs are on a soundboard? There’s a story there for another post.
  10. Practice – Remember how to get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice. If you are a weak link in the chain (from a musicianship standpoint), consider wood-shedding and you will improve the whole group. You will play what you practice. Practice for success. If you have your heart set on a solo that you get right about half of the time, consider aiming for something simpler that you will succeed at.
  11. Gifts – Do you have someone speaking whose gift is singing or singing whose gift is speaking or teaching class or greeting folks? Sometimes it might be a  mistake to make the setup of a song last longer than the song.
  12. Context – Do you contribute to the overall “movement” of the gathering? Music is powerful, don’t miss an opportunity. I have heard great speakers’ messages, weakened by a mediocre musical offering (and visa versa). It is good to be in touch with the flow of that gathering. Staying in the room and paying attention to what’s going on sometimes gives you a contextual clue that the Spirit is moving and you need to follow.
  13. Selection – If music selection is your job, don’t ignore the lyrics. Context is important and you can help take the listeners to a new place. Plan for a variety of musical styles. That is why we have several stations on our radio dials.
  14. Accessibility – Part of your job as a leader is to make songs accessible. If folks aren’t singing, something should be improved–one possibility is the sing-ability of a song–some melodies are better sung as solos or ensembles and don’t work well as a congregational song. Other possibilities might be your invitation to join in, the sense of grace in the room, the accessibility of lyrics or the ability to hear clearly what’s going on.
  15. Servant-hood – Your role as a leader is to be a servant leader and, like John the Baptist, to point toward Someone other than yourself. Make sure everything about you and your leadership are pointing somewhere else.
  16. Listen (I can’t overstate this one.)

What did I miss or overstate? If you disagree with anything, jump in and talk with me about it. Post your comments and let me know how I can help.

Reporting for duty…

I’m now a blogger… this is my first test post on my new blog.

I’m open to your suggestions about what you’d like to hear my thoughts about. I’ve got my own list that I’ll start knocking down, but if you’ve got something you want to read my thoughts on… I’ll certainly entertain your suggestions.

I’m looking forward to writing about several things: parenting, nurturing, priorities, observations, youth ministry, music, audio, social networking on the web, computing, working in a family business and tech related stuff.

More than you probably want to know: I’m ramping this up because I found a wordpress plugin called “The Hive” that runs multiple blogs on a single hosted WordPress installation. I had a couple of bumps in the setup process, but the fine folks at (our hosting company), got right on it.